There is often a time lapse between your inner release of judgment and your mental shift and the outside world catching up. Patience is a hug requirement if you want the results that you are working to achieve.
This means that the other may still be problematic in your assessment of things. Allow them their experience as you maintain your goal. If you stay true to this process in both loving yourself and the other person, a huge transformation will unfold.
You will first notice less tension between the two of you, a or an openness that was not there before. Just keep loving and encouraging. You may experience bumps in the road. Don’t react if you see improvements and then an issue arises-stay aligned with the three steps and things will smooth out again.
If you digress, don’t despair, just start again and have Faith.
Setting boundaries. If you see that you are judged……….say with kindness that no one is allowed to judge you. I am sorry I cannot hear you when you are judging me. This will set the tone as to how you want to be treated. You must always act out of integrity with any request.
If you want to have relationships that work you must get rid of Pride, Arrogance and Self Righteousness. Cast Blame to the wind and take complete responsibility for every responsibility. Others do ot need to wake up, take responsibility, apologize or do anything different. Only you need to shift. You must be the change you want to see in the ones you love.
Any one can have a great relationship if they surrender judgment and they embrace each other from a space of pure appreciation. Here is an affirmation that is powerful and healing for the mending of any relationship with others and first of all with yourself. Say this to yourself!!!! and for others!
I LOVE YOU MORE THAN ‘ WHO I THINK THAT YOU SHOULD BE,’ SO I AM JUST GOING TO LET YOU BE YOU, AND I AM GOING TO LOVE YOU WITHOUT NEEDING OR WANTING YOU TO CHANGE IN ANYWAY! [Nanice Ellis]